I blame communication

So, I've come to an end, a sad and frustrating end, in which I've decided not to interfere anymore.

Communication is pivotal for our society, although it has declined up to such a low degree, it has become a double-edged tool, and so has become opinions, ideas, recommendations, advice and so on, you name it.

In Ernesto Sabato's book, The tunnel, he criticizes the lack of communication of the post-war world, making a distant and cold woman talk about the ocean when she is asked about her feelings by an already fragilely (near-to-total-insanity) paranoid protagonist. It has been more than 50 years, and this still a latent fact, but the real question is...

¿Is the lack of communication the reason why behind wars, fights, quarrels and arguments or is it the other way round?

In my humble opinion, it is definately not the second case, wars, in any scale you want, lead to destruction, to  deaths, to separation; but it does, and it can do that, just because something is already cracked in the first place.

Nothing in the pink just dies and that's it. It is just like if two countries which are famous for their good relationship, their constant support and uninterested desire of keeping in touch for their nation's sake; decided one day to go to war, just like that, just out of the blue.

No! It is not like that. Think of the Red Phone, the one both the USA and Russia decided to install right after the point where the cold war almost gets hot. It is a damn phone! and yes it prevented a high scale war!

Lately I have had more problems in life than ever, and naturally, I have given my heart trying to fix things by talking them out, I have tried to settle all of the disputes, just by giving my opinions, speaking my mind the best way possible, taking everything into account, handing logical and well-based arguments, not forgetting assertiveness, and so on. But everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, has taken everything I say as e.g. insults, cries, bad intended criticism, blame, objections, moanings and once again...you name it. (Indeed I did my homework)

So, what to do?

I don't know right now. I'm going to think about it. In my opinion, I should just stop talking, I shouldn't say or write a word at all. But hey! then how the F*** do I communicate? well, there is still body language.

So... body language it is?

What do you people think? how can you really get to communicate with someone? how not to crack the relationship? how does one give advice over a frail matter?

I would love to know what you readers think.

REASONS FOR THE POST TO BE IN ENGLISH

- I can do whatever I want, this is MY blog.
- I don't want my petite-amie to fully understand it
- It does not have anything to do with my last post, so I had to, somehow, mark the difference.
- I am talking about fricking communication in here! do you see the beauty of the irony?

love!